what to bring to a contact visit 🎒

Starting a new contact arrangement can feel overwhelming. Knowing what to bring and what not to overthink can help visits feel calmer and more connected from the start.

One of the most common questions parents ask before a contact visit is, “What should I bring?” 

It’s a good question and it usually comes from wanting things to go well for your child.

From experience, it’s the small, familiar things that help children settle best. This isn’t about packing perfectly. It’s about supporting comfort, routine, and connection.

Food can be grounding for children, especially during transitions.

Simple, familiar snacks work best. Things your child already knows and enjoys. Sharing a snack can slow the visit down and create an easy, natural moment of connection.

If your child is young or the visit includes time outdoors, a spare change of clothes is always helpful. 

Even for older children, an extra jumper or jacket can make the space feel more comfortable and predictable.

Comfort matters more than appearance.

Some children benefit from bringing a comfort item. A soft toy, a small blanket, or something familiar. These items can help children feel safe while they adjust to a new routine.

Comfort looks different for every child.

You don’t need to bring lots. One small activity is usually enough.

A favourite book, colouring, or a simple game can help visits begin gently and take the pressure off conversation.

The most important thing you bring to a contact visit isn’t something you can pack.

Calm, patience, and flexibility help children feel safe as they adjust. When expectations stay gentle, children are better able to relax and connect.

The visit doesn’t need to be perfect. It just needs to feel steady.